Come As You Are is the fully revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski’s groundbreaking bestseller that has already transformed how readers understand their sexuality. Spanning 400 pages, this paperback integrates the latest scientific research with accessible, real-world advice, offering an evidence-based roadmap for anyone seeking deeper insight, confidence, and joy in their intimate lives.

What’s New in This Revised Edition

This edition of Come As You Are expands on the original with new chapters, updated studies, and practical exercises that reflect the most current understanding of sexual wellbeing. Nagoski incorporates findings from neuroscience, psychology, and sociology to address common myths and provide clarity on topics like desire, arousal, and emotional connection. The added content ensures the book remains at the forefront of sex science.

Inside the Book

Readers will discover a compassionate, science-backed framework that explains how individual sexual response works, why context matters more than biology alone, and how to break free from cultural narratives that create stress and shame. Key topics include:

• Dual control model: understanding the brain’s “accelerator” and “brake” systems that influence arousal.
• Responsive desire: why wanting sex doesn’t have to be spontaneous to be healthy.
• Contextual factors: how stress, trust, and environment shape sexual experiences.
• Practical strategies: exercises and tools to help couples and individuals communicate more effectively and build satisfying, resilient intimate connections.

About the Author

Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., is a renowned sex educator and researcher with decades of experience translating complex science into life-changing advice. Her New York Times bestselling debut Come As You Are earned international acclaim for its warmth, wit, and rigor. This updated edition solidifies her legacy as a trusted voice in sexual wellness.

Staff Product Review

We have followed Come As You Are since its first release and were eager to explore this revised edition. The updated research adds remarkable depth, especially around the concept of responsive desire and the impact of everyday stress on intimacy. Our team found the writing as engaging and empathetic as ever, and the new exercises are immediately actionable. Come As You Are is a resource we confidently recommend to anyone looking to deepen their sexual knowledge and enhance their relationships.