Strap On and Strapless Dildos 

Are you looking for the right strap on dildo for yourself or your partner? Then you’ve come to the right place!

We have a wide selection to enhance your sex life. This includes strap on and strapless dildos, harness sets, and accessories. If you are upgrading to a new strap on, or it’s your first time purchasing one, we’ve made it easy to find one for you.

A strap on is one of the most versatile toys to own. Used for couples of any gender, solo play, and anyone who wants to try penetration in a new way. For all sexual orientations.

Some users use a strap on dildo to switch roles with their partner. For others, it’s a routine.

Strap-ons and strapless dildos are, in my view, some of the most transformative tools for intimacy available. They can reshape how partners connect, communicate, and understand each other’s bodies. I’ve seen these tools become a beautiful bridge for curiosity: for couples exploring pegging for the first time, for partners navigating strap-on play after a change in ability or anatomy, and for individuals building solo confidence. What I always emphasize is that using a harness or strapless, it starts with your own definition of boundary. What matters is that you and your partner(s) define your own limits, communicate openly, and choose materials and designs that feel safe and good. – Dr. Marsh

What Is a Strap On Dildo?

A strap on harness is most often made of silicone, leather, or fabric. It holds a dildo in place against your body. The person who wears the harness secures it around their hips. Most harnesses are adjustable so it is a proper fit.

The strap on dildo does the work. They sometimes sell separately from the harness.

The strap on dildo comes in a wide range of lengths, firmness, and widths. You can buy one harness and collect many dildos to go with it. If you are unsure, a dildo set is perfect.

What Makes a Strapless Strap On Dildo Different?

If you are buying a strapless strap on dildo, you do not need a harness. Instead, it has a curved or bulb-shaped base.

The wearer inserts it to hold the dildo in place with their own internal muscles. They use the end on their partner. You can also use a double dildo or dildos for double penetration.

This style is great for those who find harnesses uncomfortable or want another way to put it on or take it off. However, it takes more practice, as holding the dildo in place uses muscle control. You may want to use lube and try using the dildo solo first before using it with a partner.

Some strapless dildos have internal stimulation. These features include curved shapes or enhanced textures. The wearer feels pleasure as well.

Picking the Right Strap On Harness

If you’re using a standard strap on, choosing the right harness is as important as the strap on dildo. You should consider:

Materials

Fabric harnesses are breathable, soft, and most can be machine-washed. They are great for everyday use. They may feel more comfortable on your body parts.

Genuine leather harnesses are firmer, have a bolder look, and can last longer than other materials. They are usually high quality. Silicone harnesses are easy to clean and are great for use in the shower or bath.

Hollow straps, some with stainless steel chains, or a vibrating strap are also options.

Fit Type

Many strap on harnesses are thong-style. Some also have adjustable thigh straps. If you are purchasing one for the first time, choose one with adjustable thigh straps and a waistband.

O Ring Size

The O Ring is the part of the harness where the dildo goes. The rings come in different sizes. Make sure to check that the strap on the dildo you want to use fits in the O Ring.

Many harnesses have adjustable ring sizes. Some come with different sizes so you can swap them for the right fit.

Comfort

A strap on should feel right without digging in or being too loose. Choose a harness with padding or wide straps for more comfort.

Picking the Right Strap On Dildo Design

A strap on dildo can come in a wide variety of styles. You should keep in mind:

Firm or Soft

Softer materials are more flexible, which some may find more comfortable. Firmer materials hold their shape better and feel more durable. Vibrating dildos are also available. Some dildos are straighter, and some have a curved shaft.

Base Shape

When choosing a harness, look for one that has a flat or flared base to fit the O Ring. You will want a curved base for a strapless strap on. These styles are not switchable.

Dildo Texture

Starting with a smooth toy is always best. Toys that have texture are usually better for those who are not beginners or know what they like already.

Materials and Proper Care

Most of the strap on dildo options have skin-safe silicone. Silicone is not porous and does not absorb bacteria as softer fabric does.

They are compatible with water-based lubricants. Do not use silicone-based lubricant on silicone toys. This can break down the material over time.

Wash the strap on dildo when you first receive it and after each use. Use warm water and soap made for toys. You can also use mild, unscented soap.

Let it completely air dry before storage. If you have a fabric harness, you can most likely put it in a washing machine on a gentle cycle. Make sure to check the care instructions so you know how to wash it, as the next one you buy may be different from the last.

 

Who Can Use a Strap On?

Anyone can use a strap on! They are not for a certain gender or relationship. Some uses include:

• Partners where one wants to experience penetration instead of being the one penetrating
• Partners who want strap on play and want to switch roles during sex to penetrate their partner
• Partners who want a toy for pegging/anal play
• Those who want extra stimulation
• Partners who want anal penetration
• Those with erectile dysfunction
• Those who want hands free play
• Those who want to combine them with other sex toys, like a bullet vibrator
• Individuals who like wearing a strap on, even if they do not use it for penetrative sex.

Because the feel and fit of a strap on is personal, we have a wide range of types and sizes. This includes harness styles and strapless styles. You have a wide variety to choose from.

Find Your Perfect Fit

Everyone’s body is different. A strap-on is not one size fits all! Find one that feels comfortable and has the features you want. Many harnesses have adjustable straps to fit many bodies.

On this page, you can see our full range of strap on harnesses and dildo options. Our support team is here to help with any questions.

Most Asked Questions

I am a beginner, which size of a dildo should I consider?

A slimmer, shorter dildo is best. You can always get a bigger one once you know what is comfortable for you.

Is a strapless version harder to use?

It takes practice to use a strapless version. You must rely on your muscles instead. Trying it out alone with lubricant is the best way to get comfortable. We highly recommend starting with a harness.

Do I need to use a specific dildo or can I use any kind?

The base size and shape must match the harness. A flat or flared base works best for an O Ring. Dildos with a curved internal base are for strapless use and won’t work the same way in a harness.

What type of lube should I use with silicone?

For silicone toys, use water based lube. If you use silicone based lube with a silicone toy, it can break down the material.

How should I clean a fabric harness?

Many fabric harnesses you can wash on a gentle cycle or hand-wash. Check the care instructions before you wash yours.

Can I use a strap on for solo play, or is it only for partners?

You can use them for solo play. You can use a strapless dildo on its own. If you like the feel of wearing a classic strap on, you can wear it whenever you please.

Are strap on harnesses and dildos easy to travel with?

Yes. A majority of harnesses can fold or roll up to fit easily inside any travel bag. For travelling with the dildo, you may want to choose one that is discreet or smaller.