Tantus Bend Over Beginner Strap-On Harness Kit Lavender

The Tantus Bend Over Beginner kit is a complete starter strap-on set: an adjustable, machine-washable harness, two slim silicone dildos in two sizes, a swappable O-ring and a small bullet vibrator that sits in a pocket on the harness. Tantus designed it so you can pace your exploration, starting with the smaller dildo and moving up when you are ready.

The Bend Over Beginner kit suits first-time pegging and strap-on play for any couple. This is the lavender colour; the same kit also comes in Onyx.

From Tantus’ Bend Over Beginner Kit pages. Our previous description called the silicone “platinum-cured”; Tantus’ own wording is used here.

1. Try the Silk Small by hand first, before putting it in the harness, so the receiving partner can find a comfortable angle.
2. Fit the dildo through the O-ring from the inside, then put the harness on and tighten the straps until it sits flat and firm.
3. Use plenty of water-based lube and go slowly; let the receiving partner set the pace.
4. Move up to the Silk Medium only when the small one feels easy.
5. Slip the bullet into the harness pocket if the wearer wants vibration too.

Our best strap-ons for beginners guide covers harness styles, positions and how to talk it through first.

Live prices from our store. Prices updated November 2, 2026.

For the Bend Over Beginner dildos, Tantus describes its silicone as boilable, bleachable and dishwasher safe, so the dildos are easy to keep clean. Remove the bullet before washing the harness, and store the dildos where they don’t touch toys made of other materials.

Is the Bend Over Beginner a good pegging kit?

That is what Tantus designed it for: two slim dildos so you can start small and move up, plus an adjustable harness. The Silk Small is 0.8 in across, slimmer than most strap-on dildos.

Will the harness fit me?

Tantus says the adjustable harness fits hips up to 60 in. It is machine-washable.

Can I use other dildos with the harness?

Yes. The O-ring can be swapped for play with larger toys, so the harness keeps working if you move on to a bigger flared-base dildo.

Bend Over Beginner or Intermediate?

The Bend Over Beginner kit has the two smallest Silk dildos. Choose the Intermediate kit if you already know slim toys are too small for you.

How do I clean the dildos?

Tantus silicone can be washed with soap and water, boiled, bleached or put in the dishwasher. Machine-wash the harness, and take out the bullet first.

What lube should I use?

A water-based lube. Silicone lube can damage silicone toys over time.

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