The New Bottoming Book

The New Bottoming Book is the essential companion for bottoms, submissives, and anyone curious about power exchange. Written by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy, this updated 176-page paperback brings decades of real-world BDSM experience into one accessible guide. You will find scene negotiation tools, aftercare advice, and honest discussion of the emotional skills that make bottoming both safer and more fulfilling. This book gives you the language to ask for exactly what you want, set limits clearly, and build relationships rooted in trust.

About the Authors

Dossie Easton is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a long history in kink and polyamory education. Janet W. Hardy is an influential writer and editor whose work has shaped sex-positive culture. Together they bring clinical insight, lived experience, and a warmly direct voice to The New Bottoming Book.

What’s Inside This Guide

• Defining your personal bottoming style: service, sensation, submission, or something in between
• Step-by-step negotiation tools for scenes and ongoing dynamics
• Physical safety and emotional aftercare to manage drop and build resilience
• Practical advice on play parties, dungeon etiquette, and online dating
• Understanding the gap between fantasy and real-world power exchange
• Addressing shame, trauma, and self-care for long-term well-being