The New Bottoming Book is the essential companion for bottoms, submissives, and anyone curious about power exchange. Written by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy, this updated 176-page paperback brings decades of real-world BDSM experience into one accessible guide. You will find scene negotiation tools, aftercare advice, and honest discussion of the emotional skills that make bottoming both safer and more fulfilling. Whether you are new to the scene or have years of play behind you, this book gives you the language to ask for exactly what you want, set limits clearly, and build relationships rooted in trust.

About the Authors

Dossie Easton is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a long history in kink and polyamory education. Janet W. Hardy is an influential writer and editor whose work has shaped sex-positive culture. Together they bring clinical insight, lived experience, and a warmly direct voice to The New Bottoming Book.

What’s Inside This Guide

• Defining your personal bottoming style: service, sensation, submission, or something in between
• Step-by-step negotiation tools for scenes and ongoing dynamics
• Physical safety and emotional aftercare to manage drop and build resilience
• Practical advice on play parties, dungeon etiquette, and online dating
• Understanding the gap between fantasy and real-world power exchange
• Addressing shame, trauma, and self-care for long-term well-being

Format	Paperback
Pages	176
Authors	Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy
Publisher	SCB
Language	English

Our team has recommended The New Bottoming Book for years, and the updated edition reinforces why it remains a cornerstone of kink education. The tone is direct without ever feeling preachy, and every chapter respects the reader’s autonomy while equipping them with practical safety tools. We have watched even experienced players discover fresh insights from the exercises and communication scripts. If you bottom, or care about someone who does, this guide belongs on your shelf.

Q: Is this book suitable for absolute beginners?

Yes. The New Bottoming Book starts with foundational concepts and builds from there, making it ideal for anyone new to bottoming.

Q: Does the book cover topics beyond physical BDSM play?

Absolutely. It addresses emotional boundaries, relationship structures, personal growth, and the psychology of submission.

Q: Is the content explicit or purely educational?

It is educational with frank language and real-world examples. The focus stays on safety, consent, and empowerment rather than gratuitous detail.

Q: Will this book help me negotiate scenes with new partners?

Yes. The New Bottoming Book includes detailed negotiation frameworks and checklists you can use before, during, and after scenes.